Growing to become the person you want to be is a series of trying and failing. Trying again, and then learning from the mistakes. How about learning from the mistakes other people make and trying to avoid them instead.

To cover all the bases, we’re going to dive into style, fitness, family and more. That way you can see the broad spectrum of common mistakes that affect your life.


Not keeping your mind open to new ideas and styles. It’s really easy to fall into a comfortable trap of what you like and what you don’t. Once you’re in there, it’s usually really hard to get out of it.

You have to try new things, and slowly progress your style to a place you’re happy with, but are still happy to evolve. Look around for inspiration and try things on before you make a decision. You may not like it, but at least you gave it a go.

Talking to strangers

Some people find this as a natural God-given talent. Some find it super hard to talk to humans we don’t know. The only way around this is to put a little phrase in your mind before. “What’s the worst that’s going to happen?”.

Have that floating around in your mind before you talk to someone you don’t know, and see what happens. By the time you’ve made multiple scenarios in your mind of what could happen, you quickly realize that there’s literally nothing more than your brain overthinking.

Everyone is in the same boat. So make sure you pick up a paddle and start pitching in as we’re all on the same route.

Don’t forget your parents

As you grow older, more distractions appear in your life. It’s very easy to forget where you came from and who put up with your mindless acts when you were young. They worry, and always will.

Spend time with them and be a true gent. Dedicate your time, even just a little to have some gratitude. These guys built you and molded you into the person you are, and they’re super proud of that.

Our generation is quickly forgetting when we came from, even if we’ve experienced a non-traditional family life.


Rather than just going into the gym and lifting the heaviest weight possible. Take some time to build your knowledge of fitness, and learn it as a skill.

More importantly, learn how you work, what your body reacts to and needs. It’ll save you so much hassle as you grow older. Always stretch your body and learn the correct technique before going any further.

Not putting in the work

Be patient. Good things really do come to those who wait, and you have to work hard and be patient to get to where you want to be.

Sometimes it’ll feel like a daily, sometimes hourly battle against your mind, but hang in there and you’ll learn that working hard really does pay off. Set goals for your work and work towards those daily, in small increments.

Working hard doesn’t mean working every hour of the day. It’s thinking through the specifics first, and find the most solid route to get the job done correctly. Minimal effort means minimal reword.

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