Saying I do as one of the most momentous occasions of a person’s life. But when saying I do is attached to a debt that could purchase a small home, we would much rather say, let’s think about it. Here are just 15 reasons why a luxury wedding is not worth the money.
Reasons why your wedding isn’t worth it
1 – A lavish wedding doesn’t mean a happy marriage.
2 – Weddings are super stressful.
3 – Expensive weddings are not necessarily more beautiful.
4 – Travel, travel, travel.
5 – Regardless of what you spend, people will talk.
6 – Enjoy a down payment for a house.
7 – Mention the word wedding, and prices are hiked up.
8 – You don’t need all the extras.
9 – Ditch the “dream wedding” idea.
10 – Blame social media.
11 – Luxury weddings usually bring out the worst in family.
12 – Just because people expect it from you, doesn’t mean you have to do it.
13 – A lavish wedding makes people feel obligated to buy a lavish gift.
14 – One upping your fake friends is so redundant.
15 – You don’t have to invite everybody.
1 – A lavish wedding doesn’t mean a happy marriage
It’s been proven the more money spent on a wedding, the shorter the marriage tends to last several studies have been done linking the cost of the marriage to divorce rates.
Weddings that cost less than $1,000 showed a significant decrease in the likelihood of divorce and weddings costing more than $20,000 increase the likelihood of divorce by 1.6 times in the sample of women.
So why take your chances for the longevity of marriage. A more affordable wedding might just be the answer.
2 – Weddings are super stressful
Weddings are super stressful when we think of our happily ever after, we certainly don’t envision it beginning with anxiety worry and a ton of debt. Sadly. That’s what happens when too much money is funneled into a wedding causing newlyweds to begin their marriage in debt.
According to a survey done by Zola registry.com, 96% of couples freak out about their wedding. With 40% of couples stating the wedding planning was extremely stressful. This is meant to be the best day of your life, but it’s becoming the most stressful day of your life.
Take a breath. And remember the wedding is about you and your partner who cares if the shade of flower doesn’t 100% match the sash on the chairs, nobody’s going to notice that stuff anyway. And those who do notice are clearly not there for the right reasons.
3 – Expensive weddings are not necessarily more beautiful
In fact, let’s be honest. Sometimes those lavish show off weddings make guests feel uncomfortable. In 2017, weddings cost on average $33,391 and high spenders go up to $105,000 and beyond for a select few couples are trying to go for the extraordinary hiring magicians, Ferris wheels, flights to private islands, musical performances, a wine tastings and whatever your imagination and budget can afford.
But do all of those things make for a more beautiful wedding than say a lovely barn, loads of fairy lights, fresh flowers, and an intimate ceremony? No, not at all. We assure you. You’re not missing out of your budget. Doesn’t stretch to those luxuries.
4 – All the travel involved for everyone
Take a look at the unnecessary expenses of a wedding and think about what you could rather do with that money, paper invitations. They’re going to get thrown away. Anyway, you’d be saving between 450 and $650.
On average out of season flowers, they can cost so much more than in season flowers. According to brides.com. The average bouquet is between 150 and $350, and will increase dramatically with flowers, not in season wedding cakes, opt for more affordable options like donuts, cupcakes, waffles, or beautifully decorated macaroons, open bars.
Tempting as that sounds. It’s a recipe for disaster for your pocket. Would you rather head to a new destination with the extra cash or watch your best man flirting with your mother-in-law have a smaller wedding and use the extra two globe-trot and create double the memories.
5 – Regardless of what you spend, people will talk
Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “great minds, discuss ideas, average minds, discuss events, small minds, discuss people”. So whether you’re putting down $5,000 for a wedding or the average 33,000 or the extreme 105,000, there will always be someone that will talk and criticize it.
If you want to drive yourself to your own wedding and save on the cost of hiring a limo, please do it. And if you want to get your bestie to do your hair, don’t feel pressure to get it professionally done.
And if you want to wear your most comfortable shoes, that you can dance the night away in you own no explanation to anyone for not buying a specific bridal shoe and let them talk besides they’ll see you so happy and having the best time feel, forget their petty and be part of the joy and happiness.
6 – Enjoy a down payment for a house
We told you the average of a wedding. So let’s see how part of that money could be used for a down payment on a home of federal housing administration or FHA loan usually has a minimum down payment of 3.5% of the total cost of the property.
So if you were going to purchase a property for $300,000, you’d only need to put down a $10,500 deposit. So if you had to choose between a down payment on a home or adding the extra sparkle to a lavish wedding, what would you choose?
7 – Mention the word wedding, and prices are hiked up
Mention the word wedding and prices get hiked up. A sad, but true fact is the moment you attach the word wedding to celebrations. The prices suddenly skyrocket offbeat, bride.com, regale the story of one bride who made a regular with her hairdresser.
It was the day of the bride’s wedding, but she didn’t mention that to the salon. She asked for a pretty style, as she said, she was going to a party. They quoted the price for the simple request and she saved a lot of money.
Had she mentioned it was her wedding. The same style would have cost a whole lot more money. Some call it wedding tax, the same flowers that would usually cost you a set amount cost you so much more because it’s a wedding.
And the same goes for shoes, accessories, clothing. As the Seattle based author of offbeat, bride, aerial metal stalling says with things like flowers, things like clothing, wear things like accessories or shoes or decor.
There’s no reason to ever mention it’s for a wedding. However, she does add often the markup is justified. Dealing with weddings is higher risk, higher mama, higher quality.
8 – You don’t need all the extras
You don’t need all the extras. Sure you want them, but those extras are not going to ultimately add value to your big day. You don’t need the wedding programs. Menu cards, five course played a dinner on gold rim plates, champagne and chocolate fountain bottles of Fiji water on every table and wedding favors that cost more than your wedding dress.
And definitely not monogrammed. Anything those do not make or break a wedding. What you do need is a willing couple of keen to say their ideas in front of them. Most important people.
9 – Ditch the “dream wedding” idea
Ditch the dream wedding idea, the fairytale wedding drummed into women’s minds since they were little girls, you know how the princess is all married, their Prince charming.
Thank goodness things have changed dramatically for a start. Princesses are marrying their princess charming and princess are marrying their princess and people are doing whatever the hell they want when it comes to their own weddings, a boxers ditch, the idea of wedding has to be done by the book.
You don’t have to wear a veil. In fact, why are you even wearing white doesn’t that symbolize purity or virginity or something, and you don’t need to toss a garter or a bouquet or a smash cake into each other’s faces, or even walk down an aisle.
If you don’t want to do it your way. And if you can save a ton of money in the process, all the more reason to celebrate, but it’s not just the fairytales we read as you’ll see with our next point.
10 – Blame social media
Stress, bouquet, bridesmaids, flower girls, confetti, girls ring bearers, big cake loads of guests, perfect makeup. It only happens once in a lifetime. We deserve the big, big wedding. Well done. Social media.
Have you ever come across your parents’ old wedding photos? They’re so simple, no major frills or fuss. And everyone had the best time.
cnbc.com published an article by Michelle Castillo pointing out that since the rise of social media, Pinterest and Instagram, weddings are heavily influenced to be and better. Kristin Maxwell Cooper, executive editor of the nod States, “Social media has definitely influenced weddings in a way that couples are seeking larger than life ideas. I think they’re having greater expectations for how their day should look, feel.”
11 – Luxury weddings usually bring out the worst in family
Family brides, Zilla, a woman whose behavior and planning the details of her wedding has regarded as obsessive or intolerably demanding the mothers on both sides at loggerheads, with each other about how the ceremony should pan out.
You’ve got the twice-removed cousins trying to be friendly to garner an invite to the big day and the best man who’s sold on bringing up every past sexual encounter of the groom to be to the point of a fallout with a new wife.
12 – Just because people expect it from you, doesn’t mean you have to do it
A bride shared her story on Reddit, where she spoke about her decision to drive herself to her own wedding. And her mom’s little Ford Fiesta, her aunts and uncles were horrified and couldn’t understand or accept her decision to do so.
They offered their Mercedes or BMWs and caused such a fuss about her decision to drive herself. Once the wedding was over and everyone had gone home, she received a message from an ante apologizing for their behavior. They acknowledged the wedding was perfect and it made zero difference. What car she arrived in. She stuck to her guns and didn’t bend when pressure was put on her. And neither should you. It’s your wedding. After all they’ve had their turn already.
13 – A lavish wedding makes people feel obligated to buy a lavish gift
That’s a terrible position to put your friends and family in. And sadly many bridal couples expect that. Have you seen some of the overpriced items, some couples put on their registry, Tiffany ice buckets, diamond and crusted wineglasses, flat screen TV, a water bed.
And top of the range linens. When Kim Kardashians married Humphreys, they had $840 Havana, crystal ashtray on their registry of 380 Bucher OD jam jar and lollipops wisdom set of three. See no evil, hear no evil speak, no evil figurines priced at $735.
14 – One upping your fake friends is so redundant
If they make you feel like that, why even invite them? Those people are not your real friends. They don’t need to be at your wedding and you don’t need to feel like you need to go bigger and better than they did in these situations.
Always remember this quote, “those who mind don’t matter. And those who matter don’t mind.”
15 – You don’t have to invite everybody
Avoiding the luxury wedding and claiming budget restraints means you sadly can’t invite your ex stepsister with a bad breath. What up pity?
And we’re afraid that you won’t be able to invite your golfing buddy with the touchy-feely hands either because you just don’t have the budget for it. Gosh, what a shame are you seeing the benefits of a small budget-friendly wedding yet? We think you might be.
So as you can see, getting that luxury wedding or even having a wedding in the first place can cost so much in money and relationships. We hope you enjoyed the 15 reasons why a luxury wedding isn’t worth the money in the end.