Dreaming about your ex throws your mental health off balance (let’s just say it’s like getting kicked in the stomach that you didn’t see coming).
It’s not fun (especially if things ended badly) and it almost always makes you question your decisions and wonder what it means, or if it counts as cheating (it doesn’t).
And while it’s something out of your control, that you can’t prevent and isn’t exactly your fault, in addition to always being weird and taking you by surprise, it can tell you some things that you yourself refuse to acknowledge or accept… sort of.
Dreams have meaning and there’s nothing mystical about them (and they’re not predictions about the future, so don’t go betting on the numbers that came to mind while you were sleeping).
They almost always have to do with things you care about, would like to achieve, or are concerned about, and the same is true when you keep dreaming about your ex.
Imagine the following situation: you broke up with your girlfriend a few months or years ago, you’ve moved on with your life, and you’re even starting to date someone else.
Everything is going well and you have stopped hurting because of what you have lost. So you go to bed thinking that tomorrow will be a great day. But the moment you close your eyes, all you see is the image of your ex and you suddenly wake up very confused.
What does this mean, why has this person come back into your mind, is it a sign that she was the one and you are now going to die alone?
The truth is that the meaning of dreams is very personal. There is no collective form and the details depend on each person and their experiences. But, according to experts, some types of dreams have an explanation that applies to everyone, such as dreams about a former partner who is no longer in your life.
If you search the Internet, you’ll find a million possible explanations for why you keep dreaming about your ex (Dream Moods, a dream analysis site, also offers some possibilities). But there are some that come up often, that are more logical than others and that will reassure you.
These are the ones that all the experts – between psychologists, applications and magazines – mention the most. And even if it means that you’re missing something in the relationship, it doesn’t mean you have to drop everything to get back with someone who has hurt you or who you know is not right for you.
You’re with someone who reminds you of them
Sometimes this has nothing to do with your ex. This type of dream can be triggered when you meet people with a similar personality, attitude or mannerisms to your ex and it just makes you think of them.
You miss the feeling of being in love
Getting back together with your ex in a dream doesn’t mean you have to do it. According to some experts, it simply means that you miss the feeling of being in a relationship or that you are going through a major change that reminds you of something you experienced in your previous relationship.
You’re not sure you’re ready for a new relationship
According to experts, if you are dreaming about your ex in a sexual context, it may mean that you are hesitant to start a new relationship or situation.
It’s time to move on with your life
Dreaming that your ex is ignoring you means that it’s time to close the cycle and look for something new, this is your mind reminding you that this person is not good for you and you don’t need them back in your life.
Your relationship becomes routine
According to author and dream analyst Lauri Quinn, dreaming about your ex can mean that your relationship is becoming routine and somewhat boring, but it can also mean that you’ve been lonely for a long time and clearly need someone in your life (or to have sex with).
You have unresolved feelings
This doesn’t mean you’re still in love, it just means there’s something from a previous relationship that you can’t get over, that’s bothering you, or that you miss.
You’re over the relationship
Experts say that if the dream is about an ex you broke up with a long time ago, even if it’s a sex dream, it’s a sign that you no longer feel guilty, bad or otherwise, about what happened and that the past relationship no longer controls your life.
Of course, this is just the opinion of some internet “experts” (and psychics). In the end, it may mean something completely different, but if the majority says the same thing, maybe you should pay attention and think about what you really want and need in your life.
Maybe then you can start having more pleasant dreams, like flying or something like that.